idea: scales

I used to think life was purely a system of checks and balances. Cause and effect. A man grasps his smallness in the world and either succumbs to this truth or acts out at the world. An artist is criticized harshly and either quits his work or makes better art.

I’ve seen this pattern in my own life. I have recognized that my path in business is one filled with the temptation and meaninglessness of climbing the proverbial ladder of success. Checks. And, I became intentional and minimalistic, so I would walk a different path to work in a world that drones, “more.” Balances.

But this does not always have to be.

I do not believe change is always precipitated by a fall.

With an act of will and foresight, we can become what we need to be to grow. We can preempt the change that would be forced upon us by hurt.

There’s more than one way to fix what is broken, and more than one way to find renewal from looking ahead.

Now, let intentionality enter your life without the prompting of pain.

idea: reframing this

I want to be honest about where I’m at with this space.

I am no longer inspired. With 5 articles on hold and an abundance of time, I should be able to create something here that energizes. But I have encountered a problem with my vision. The thing driving me to create is not enough. The foundation I built out was too narrow. The space too small.

Now I find myself in a place of review, examining all of what has come before to determine what deserves to stay.

What is writing without revisions? What is a plan without scrapping the plan? Parts of the plan may be salvageable, but most of it will not be. Fragments recovered.

In this way, I have approached my effort here and begun to recalibrate the system I used. There is a new framework I will use to create. A new foundation I will build upon. I want to open up this space to whimsy and creativity it was so constrained by before.

I am ready to sit down and control my thoughts. Ready to put words on a page. Ready to learn what it means to write.

This is my task and my desire. I have hid by the doorway for too long to stop where I am now.

So let’s see if this is what I am made for.

tools, not feeds // LightPhoneII 3-mo review

What does being present mean to you?

For me, it’s become a lifestyle I choose to pursue, not often well, but intentionally.

My reason for investing in an uncertain Indiegogo campaign was not for the awesome specs on a new technology, or because I am an early adopter-type. It was for a day that snow fell on campus and I sat and wrote about love and being, watching flakes fall from the heavens and spill upon the ground transforming into a blanket of white. It was for the opportunity to gaze unhindered into another’s eyes and carry a conversation with them about small things that matter.

It was for these and moments similar that I decided to invest $350 to part with my iPhone and choose something different.

* Have you ever tried to listen to one or two conversations in a cafeteria while also engaging who or what is in front of you? You will most assuredly begin to lose track of what response is pertinent to what conversation.

* I feel like as a culture we have done a good job of recognizing multitasking as a myth, but for those who are still confident in their spilt-focus ways, read here about the truth that’s been found.

We do the same thing when we’re in conversation and our phones ‘ping’ with a notification for text, email or social media- we’re pulled into that world and out of the real world. Momentarily, we just glance, but ultimately, we begin a thread of new interactions with whatever is within our screen, diverting attention from the person with which we sought connection.

I was an addict. An addict to my phone’s calendar and email. Planning every half-hour of my day led me to a place of, what I call, “not-presence”. I had “not-presence” in conversations with people I cared about because of how “future-minded” I had become, simply looking ahead at the next thing on my plate that day.

Maybe this reliance on technology is similar to your own, or you have a different preferred daily gadget on your device, but we must be aware of the thin line between tool and crutch that we all walk with technology.

It is important to say now that I am not advocating for societal adoption of “simple technology” or a renaissance of “dumb-phones” by all. My drive, always, is to simply present another way. A different path is out there. I do not believe the LightPhoneII is functional for every career, person or lifestyle as a primary phone.

That being said, I now operate in a world where I thrive with the freedom from connectivity and am able to intentionally connect in a way that is most me-like, free of the frills and dressings that my previous modus operandi provided.

The LightPhoneII has its ups and downs as an entry to a new tech sphere that is growing larger, but the vision of the product is achieved in its ability to be used as little as possible for the life I lead.

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idea: choice minimalism

*A quick comment on the “pick and choose” nature of minimalism.

My favorite trait of minimalism and an intentional lifestyle is just that-

It’s intentional!

Minimalism is not a one-size-fits-all kind of lifestyle or a cookie-cutter fit treatment to living. You take what most deeply benefits you in your walk. (***Remembering theminimalists charge to “love people and use things”***)

A capsule wardrobe was the first reform that I latched on to and found extreme benefit in, until later when I followed a calling forward into digital minimalism and essentialism.

I have a lot of books. Even maintaining a limited size, I have built up a modest library after a year of collecting and reading (***I plan to make 2020 Q1 a quarter of rereading to stem the spending and consumption of new learning material***). Some minimalists choose tablets or eBooks to minimize their physical possessions. This is an area of my life that I have chosen purposefully. The underlying need behind minimalism is a need to question motivations behind consumption.

So, choose your own adventure in exploring different avenues to minimalism and truly make it your own.

the important things

What is most important to you?

This question is at the core of an intentional minimalist lifestyle because when we truly let this question spread throughout every part of our lives, few things are left to stay.

Look to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. The above question is satisfied for every person by the bare minimums in this structure. Food, water, shelter, rest and security (minimum financial requirements incorporated) are built into the bottom two tiers.

The third tier includes our innate desire to be a part of community and be valued. This goes hand in hand with the fourth tier, esteem, that encapsulates our need to feel accomplished or good enough.

Minimalism (similar to stoicism) mends our struggles with the fifth tier, self-acceptance, in being okay with your potential achieved.

In theminimalists book, an exploration and subsequent action from the question, “what is most important to oneself”, leaves us with everything that remains. And everything that remains is enough (food, shelter, love, purpose). Minimalism is a lens- a question that seeks to guide you to the self-acceptance of who you are, unburdened and not defined by the stuff you possess. Seth Godin reminds us that you should not live in a deficit and “measure yourself against someone (there’s always someone) who has more (there’s always more) than you do.”

– As a college student, devoting time to study groups, gives back knowledge and time. Invest in the people in your closest rings.

– Look at your closet. Pick three items right now to move to a designated “give away” pile or box. Before doing anything else, locate the nearest shelter or food and clothing bank with open hours to bring your pile to after a week of downsizing this way. Invite your neighbor to join you. You will make connections and give back tangible amounts.

– Set a calendar reminder weekly to call a family member or old friend with whom you have fallen out of touch.

In the Bible, the book of Luke says, “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God.”

With the realization and admittance that the first four tiers are met to a satiable amount, you can begin to give back through your availability, disentangled finances and unbound love and creativity for people.

my minimal story

(note: i have intended to tell this narrative in writing for a long time with the intentions of further explaining why i write what i write. This account had to be written in frenzied outbursts and remains in long-form, not ideally, for the sake of the plot’s integrity. There are no experts in this story, and yet, everything remains as fact.)

In 2018, I experienced a life-changing paradigm shift.

I became a minimalist.

I began my search for the right college major as I approached high school graduation. I had always heard of the imperishability of a business degree and the high potential for someone to flourish in this field. Then I zeroed in on Accounting and Finance, the cash-cows of the business world.

*Median lifetime earnings (in millions) highlighting Accounting and Finance.

By the time I had researched the work details (a natural affinity for math helped with appeal) and metaphorically signed my soul away on the dotted line of the check I was preparing to work, blood, sweat and tears, for, I began planning my aspirations and five-year plan.

Then the waves came.

I was with a relative one week and was brought along to visit some of their colleagues. These people were very well off in the business world. Having recently decided to pursue the world these men inhabited, my proud relative was eager to display their kin’s pursuits. The successful enterprisers were eager to impress.

They grossly underestimated how little it would take to impress a fledgling entrepreneur, so by the third tale of multi-million dollar corporate hostile takeovers they had orchestrated, I was feeling overkill. My ambition to start the climb fell as these executives and managers (words here which mean, “he who executes” and “controller of man”… loosely) started to stifle my potential and, against my will, loft my plans to impossible heights of affluence.

Suffice it to say, I was confused after this meeting. Disenfranchised with the future I had been confident in, I wondered: what drives my ambition?

Money had never been an extreme motivator for me. I had always had it and intended to live an average life with it like I had grown up seeing. Business fit in my ring-house being a natural networker and big-picture viewer. The corporate ladder I planned to mount came into view. At its peak was a ceiling that I viewed as destructible given a big enough hammer. I wouldn’t stop climbing for anything. unchecked, I knew, I would push myself to achieve what I viewed as the “good life” and riches.

I realized in a moment, I did not want to be those men describing their corporate and personal lives in lavish detail. I did not want to be trapped by the captivation of promotions and corner offices. I broke down.

My entire life had been about winning with a capital ‘W’, and it would continue to be this way unless something changed.

Enter minimalism. I do not remember my first exposure to the community of minimalists across the country, but I remember the first time I heard the term itself.

Earlier in life, my mom pointed out something about myself that would go on to aid me in my pursuit of simplicity. When spring came one year, the project of “spring cleaning” became paramount in our home, as is tradition even to this day, and all my sisters, my dad and the dog were enlisted to serve. We were each assigned a list of things in our separate dwellings that needed to be considered for removal. Things like, old clothes, excess trophy’s and memorabilia, toys and books that we no longer used and any other spare items or knick-knacks that belonged at a thrift store or lawn sale.

As I departed to my side of the home, I began to comb through the closet, shelves and shadows beneath the bed. After about ten minutes, I had a few things to give away, but I still came away feeling less accomplished than my sisters who toted boxes of items to impart. Feeling dejected and full of disappointment, I returned to my supervisor with head hung low to my meager loot.

Seeing me forlorn, my mom responded in love. “It’s okay. You’re just a little bit of a minimalist” she said. I thought of percentages and proportions, as I was prone to do at times, and realized that I had actually found more to clean out per capita than my sisters because of the already small size of my belongings.

My foundation for this new lifestyle had already been laid as I was partly wired this way.* Part of my biggest struggle at the time was my love of business and the trap I saw in it. I wanted to be in the corporate world quite badly but had come to a crossroads in the life of my personal philosophical groundings. How I pursued my goals would be impacted by the habits and paradigms I incorporated into my life. I needed this change.

*This is not to say some are made for minimalism while others are not, it just shows my tendency to exhibit the minimalist characteristic of dispensing with “stuff” more readily.

Diving into the research, the lifestyle, the downsizing- I found solace for the first time in the ideas circulated. I was able to reconcile the warring lives within me by keeping my focus on the parts of my life that would matter for longer than ten years. As I pursue endeavors of success, I constantly have to be aware of how and why I got to where I am today.

Reminding myself what I’d be if I wasn’t who I am…

Some of the minimalist influencers and creatives early on who impacted my journey to this point: Matt D’Avella, TheMinimalists, Colin Wright, Joshua Becker.

I still am learning everyday what minimalism looks like as a complement to my faith and the views I have about life. A simple existence is not an easy pursuit these days and requires great intentionality, as I have found.

*Image sourced from the public domain.

filling the space

I’d like to address an adage whose implication’s are as far-reaching as the implications of the law of gravity.

Historian and Professor Cyril Northcote Parkinson published an essay in The Economist in 1955 supporting his postulation that,

“work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.” – The Economist

The significance in this idea expands to some ideas available for microscopic scrutiny (and I wouldn’t be me without over-examining these few).

Watching shows like House Hunters or Flip or Flop on home improvement networks, we can see themes emerge in how many people purchase homes. You always hear the criteria for timid couples shopping for their starter home to be, none other than, their budget. They ask “how much can I get with the money I have?” They provide a little wiggle room for renovations and emergencies, but put their life savings into the biggest and best house an over-eager realtor can find for them.

Ignoring the norm that most of the “budgets” shown include the largest bank loan that can be received by these couples (with interest), homeowners have already lost value by forcing themselves to live in spaces too large.

See the average sq. ft. increase in the last 30 years (CNN).

CNN and many more surveys show that in the 30 years before 2013, home sizes have increased by almost 1000 square feet. All this in spite of the fact that family size decreased from 3.37 members in 1950 to 2.5 members in 2016, so that we are living with, on average, one less person in a home and one thousand more square feet of space from person to person. The implications of this fact upon the family is massive and leads to more than just surface level problems.

Constraint: How we fail to appreciate the finite nature of land and energy resources. Jimmy Carter talked about the energy problems facing America, and our growing homes only contribute to this coming crisis. North America has a limited number of space and an increasing number of inhabitants who consume land in economically inefficient ways that will impact the future potential growth of our expanding nation.

The “tiny house” movement, often ridiculed or glorified for only the true minimalists or “new ageists,” it is not too extreme an option for those who are serious about using land and finances responsibly. (I remember a good portion of my growing up years wanting to live in a PODS storage shell. I think I wanted to be closer to the dog.) But more options exist for those willing to support reducing our ecological footprint and improving lifestyles, from designing and building their own conservative homes, to just buying smaller (which coincidentally amounts to cheaper).

Separation: A matter closer to the heart is the disconnectedness of families in homes whose halls echo the shouts of households stranded apart. Here is a huge contributing factor, I believe, to the destruction of family structure, whether you believe a desolation here is occurring or not. Given larger living spaces, even with working-from-home parents, a modern family can go about their day entirely at ease without passing another soul in their house.

Heat map of the “American Monster Home” by 5Kids1Condo.

Adrian Crook, owner of a video game consulting business and author of the blog 5Kids1Condo, examines how little of our home’s social spaces like dining rooms or porch sitting areas Americans choose to use on a weekly basis. The excess space in a home and the declined family size shows us a trend in an opposite direction that upsets family dynamics and cannot be positive for the future of the communities that are the lifeblood of our society.

Stuff: Here we put Parkinson’s Law, tweaked slightly, into use. “Things” accumulate so as to fill the space available to it. Joshua Fields Millburn, a co-writer of Everything that Remains, perfectly captures the social imperatives we believe to be subject to-

“… my first inclination was, of course, to purchase the things I still “needed” for my new place. You know, the basics: food, hygiene products, a shower curtain, towels, a bed, and umm… oh I need a couch and a matching leather chair and a love seat and a lamp and a desk chair and another lamp for over there, and oh yeah don’t forget the sideboard that matches the desk……….” (many things later) “… And a rug for the entryway and bathroom rugs (bath mats?) and what about that one thing, that thing that’s like a rug but longer? Yeah, a runner; I need one of those, and I’m also going to need…”

This is how we accumulate, not skeletons in the closet, but cardboard boxes in closets filled with “things” that we we had a use for at one point.

But wait… I gave up on learning how to cook the perfect Soufflé with this kit. And I guess I don’t use this elliptical now that I have a gym membership. And when did I plan on acquiring the accompanying speaker for this stereo system? (I’m not guilt-free here in the slightest) We think these thoughts and continue living the same cluttered lives in our ever-growing, but empty homes.

***(Update– 17 June 2019: I fail to even mention the emergence of the $3.8 billion self-storage industry over the past 20 years that holds even more of our junk as the amount of “things” we own increases year by year)***

Playing devil’s advocate, one could cite the growing number of telecommuters who work from in-home offices and workspaces like some articles suggest. A brief glance at the history of telecommuters, though, reveals that with only 4.5% of Americans currently telecommuting and using space in homes, an increase of only about 2.5% since the 1980’s when the mode of working emerged.

I hold a deep conviction that the “stuff” we own amasses to the amount of space we let it have and a true belief that it is not “things” that add value to our lives, but purpose, connection and furthering our identity as humans. For this reason I write: not to hurl stones at those who have built walls in their comfortable American Dream homes, but to plead with the few ready for change. Those sick of falling into the societal norms that tell us how to live. The speech of commoners is what drives a movement to become a revolution.